Not a Match? Maybe it Is!

By Chrissie VanWormer

Right now I find myself dating. I’m not particularly thrilled with the process at this point in my life but I’ve made the decision to soldier on and soldiering on is what I’m doing. Anyway, a few of months ago I met a guy who initially seemed very nice. But as the evening wore on, he pushed every button I didn’t know I had. I was honestly surprised and a bit puzzled since it’s rare that anyone can do that, but at the end of the evening, I declared us “not a match” and walked away. As time has gone on, I’ve gotten to know the button pusher a bit and realized that he’s a real good guy. So what does this have to do with business? Everything!

Starting a business is kind of like dating. You have to go out, do the dance and hopefully you’ll find a good match for the goods or services you’re offering. As I look back to when I first started my business, there were definitely occasions that I jumped to a conclusion and declared a prospective client “not a match”. There were several who tried to beat me down on my price and I was very sensitive about that at the point. When I turned them away, I felt my reasons were solid and I knew I was justified in my decision. Then there were several other prospects that didn’t have the money to pay but were willing to work out an arrangement that was beneficial to both parties. At the time when I was working so hard to get something going, I felt like they wanted to buy a hamburger today that they’d surely pay for on Tuesday. It was frustrating but in a couple of cases we did move on to the second date and I brought them on as clients. Several offered payment on the back end of a project and others have offered equity in their companies. Of course I really couldn’t justify taking money on the back end considering I needed to eat in the meantime, so I had to carefully pick a couple I could provide that service for. The others were once more declared “not a match”.

For those I felt there was a “possible future” with, I continued the dance. For them I did whatever I could to help out by offering advice, networking opportunities and referring them to websites or experts I believed could assist. I was always happy to take their calls and applauded their successes.

Some of the companies who approached me during that period of time didn’t make it. In those cases I knew my assessment had been correct. It can be tough out there without resources and I have a pretty good gut. But several have made good and are continuing to grow. What I’ve noticed is the groups that I was willing to assist in whatever way I could have come back to me and are now paying clients. They were grateful for the help and are happy to refer me on to their business associates and colleagues. What I’ve noticed is for those I too quickly labeled “not a match” even a “congratulations on your success” email goes unanswered. Of course, I might handle that differently, but that’s for a different blog entry!

The bottom line here is to take each opportunity you get and treat it gently. Be careful to think beyond next month and continue the dance in whatever way you can. Of course it’s not necessary to continue “dating” a prospect you know will never be a fit, but don’t judge too quickly. What might at first glance not feel like a match, could end up being one of your best clients.